Sunday, April 11, 2004
The complexity of the human mind is something that no one, until now, can comprehen. Why do people crave attention? Why do people want love? Why do people always want answers? Why do some ppl want certian things more than others?
Some say its due to the star signs, others, the human antomy. For me, i belive however we feel, its all in the mind. Its always mind over matter. There are 2 things that control our behavior. Our emotions and our mind. How u think would be how u reaction to certain circumstances. I do not say this just for the sake of it but because I have noticed this trend. Take this story as an example. There is this boy, he was brought up in a protected family. All his life he was given all the love. Then one day he was thrown into this curel world. He was rejected, condemed. If he decided that his life is miserable because ppl are treating him badly, he would most properly kill himself. If he thinks that at least i had a happy childhood, i am very very sure he would find the strenght to go on in his life. Well, you may say this is not how u will react. Okay, lets look at everyday examples. You have been failing this subject. Lets say, Maths. So tomorrow is your test. There are 2 reactions, either the "i-don't-care-becos-i-will-fail" attitude, or the "i-will-do-my-best" attitude. But no matter what attitude u have towards it I am sure the fear or failing would be there. Lets face it, as humans, as Singaporeans, we have been indocrinated with the belief that we can't lose. So, failing is never an option.
As a law student, I dare say that some of the cases I have read are very comical. I mean, why would someone want kill because of passion. I do admit that love is a powerful thing and yes, more than once i have fallen into that trap and have came out very wounded. But, its mind over matter. Is its sensible to tell yourself your life is over because that person don't love u any more? It is sensible to tell yourself that if that person doesnt want you no one can? Its sad to think that some people think that way. Its also veyr shocking to see what hatred can do to a sane man. If only people can learn to filter. Hate what the person did to u not the person himself/herself. By doing so you would not get angry easily because everyone is beautiful. Yes, i am sure in life people would wrong each other. But if u hate the sin but love the sinner would that be better. Would that make you more forgiving? Well, i guess as humans our emtions tend to get the better of us. But i always remind myself, mind over matter.
In life, there are so many beautiful things. All you have to do is look ard. The world is full of beauty.
Learn to accept yourself that is the only way your can be happy. You are the central player in your life. Never become a victim of circumstance. That is something all of us have to remind ourselves, inculding me. But in this process please do not become self centre. You are 2 hands for a reason. One for helping yourself, the other to help others.
Ask not what other can do for u but what you can do for others.
Posted by jasmine at 8:02 PM